How to become a calm and sober person

Do friends and family often describe you as “noisy,” “noisy,” or “talkative”? Do you feel like you talk so much that you can't listen to other people's feelings and thoughts? If you have this problem, have you thought about becoming a calmer person? It may make a noticeable difference in your relationships as you become more understanding, your family and friends will feel that you respect them more, and they will not look at you and say to themselves, “Would you be quiet a little!”

At first, you can pick out the situations in which you want to be calmer, and over time it will become a natural part of who you are. But it has to be, like any attempt at changing personality, gradual. If you happen to switch from loud to quiet all of a sudden, people will think you have something wrong. Simply tell them that you are trying to become calmer and let them see and appreciate your development.

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Make calm behavior

Act more carefully. Quiet people tend to act less spontaneously, and consider their decisions from different angles before making them. They always move with deliberate steps and do not easily get caught up in sudden situations. They are constantly in a state of anticipation and thinking about their next step.[XNUMX] Before taking action, always try to think about the consequences.
Quiet people like to stay out of groups. If there is a commotion and everyone rushes to the windows to find out, the quiet person will first take the time to think whether it is worth going forward. Quiet people are not affected in the same way as loud people.

Use body language to appear cute and friendly.

It's a lot easier to approach a quiet person than a loud or aggressive person. A calm person usually uses simple body language and neutral expressions, and tends not so much for dramatic expressions. That is why people usually think that a quiet person is kinder than a loud one, although this is not always the case.
To stay open and friendly, keep your head high, and keep your eyes peeled. Maintain a comfortable and unpretentious sitting or standing position, as if you were sitting alone in an empty waiting room. Spend a few moments reflecting on what you wouldn't be able to see if you were too busy chatting.

Have patience and sobriety.

When in the company of a quiet person, you will notice that they have a soothing effect on the atmosphere, helping those around them to settle down and think more clearly. Why can't you be that person? When everyone loses control, be the voice of reason. And when you finally open your mouth to speak—which will be a rare event—everyone will automatically listen.
This will give you a lot of power, and will turn you into a competent, silent leader. When those around you notice that you are always calm and easy-going, and you speak briefly and effectively, they will feel a natural inclination to follow you.

Earn the trust of others by being reliable and direct.

Quiet people are usually adept at situations that require gaining the trust of others. The loud ones often appear to be frivolous, moody, and selfish. Reveal your new character and let her take over. And you may have discovered that all people - very quickly - have come to turn to you.
This new interest in you should make you more trustworthy. The social interactions around you won't be as distracting as before, and this will leave room for attention to your commitments. Keep that spirit, especially if you have a long history of suffering from such problems.

Know yourself, and contravene it.

If you think you are loud and reckless (and if in fact you are loud and reckless), think about your motives. When you sit down to eat with your family, pay attention to the thoughts and behaviors that you find yourself driven to. Then start by choosing one thing and doing its opposite. Feel the urge to start chatting about mashed potatoes? Resist your desire. Keep picking your own battles.
Start gradually, of course. You won't suddenly turn from talkative to secretive. Pick a moment or two in the day when you feel the urge to gossip, and try to be more reserved. It will get easier with time.