Momwe mungakhalire munthu wodekha komanso wodekha

Kodi abwenzi ndi achibale nthawi zambiri amakuuzani kuti ndinu “waphokoso,” “waphokoso,” kapena “wolankhula”? Kodi mumaona ngati mumalankhula kwambiri moti simungathe kumvetsera maganizo a anthu ena? Ngati muli ndi vuto limeneli, kodi munaganizapo zokhala munthu wodekha? Zingapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu m’maunansi anu pamene mukhala omvetsetsana, achibale anu ndi mabwenzi adzaona kuti mumawalemekeza kwambiri, ndipo sadzayang’anani ndi kunena m’mitima yanu kuti, “Mungakhale chete pang’ono!”

Poyamba, mutha kusankha zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale chete, ndipo m'kupita kwanthawi zimakhala zachibadwa zomwe muli. Koma kuyenera kukhala, monga kuyesa kulikonse kosintha umunthu, pang’onopang’ono. Ngati mutasintha kuchoka paphokoso kupita ku chete mwadzidzidzi, anthu angaganize kuti muli ndi vuto. Ingowauzani kuti mukuyesera kukhala wodekha ndikuwalola kuwona ndikuyamikira kukula kwanu.

Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti izi ndi zomwe mukufuna, pitilizani kuwerenga nkhani ya lero ndi Anna Salwa.

Khalani ndi khalidwe lodekha

Chitani zinthu mosamala kwambiri. Anthu achete amakonda kuchita mocheperapo, ndipo amalingalira zosankha zawo mosiyanasiyana asanapange. Nthawi zonse amasuntha ndi masitepe mwadala ndipo samagwidwa mosavuta ndi zochitika zadzidzidzi. Nthaŵi zonse amakhala oyembekezera ndi kulingalira za sitepe yotsatira. [XNUMX] Musanachitepo kanthu, nthaŵi zonse yesani kulingalira zotulukapo zake.
Anthu achete amakonda kusakhala m'magulu. Ngati pali chipwirikiti ndipo aliyense akuthamangira mazenera kuti adziwe, munthu wodekhayo amatenga nthawi kuti aganizire ngati kuli koyenera kupita patsogolo. Anthu achete samakhudzidwa mofanana ndi anthu ofuula.

Gwiritsani ntchito zilankhulo za thupi kuti muwoneke wokongola komanso wochezeka.

Ndikosavuta kuyandikira munthu wachete kusiyana ndi munthu waphokoso kapena waukali. Munthu wodekha nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu osavuta a thupi komanso mawu osalowerera ndale, ndipo samakonda kwambiri mawu ochititsa chidwi. N’chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri anthu amaganiza kuti munthu wachete ndi wokoma mtima kuposa waphokoso, ngakhale kuti sizili choncho nthawi zonse.
Kuti mukhale omasuka ndi ochezeka, khalani ndi mutu wanu pamwamba, ndipo maso anu ayang'ane. Pitirizani kukhala momasuka komanso mosasamala kapena kuyimirira, ngati kuti mwakhala nokha m'chipinda chodikirira chopanda kanthu. Tengani kamphindi pang'ono kuganizira zomwe simukanatha kuziwona ngati mutakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndikucheza.

Khalani ndi chipiriro ndi kudziletsa.

Mukakhala ndi munthu wachete, mudzaona kuti ali ndi chiyambukiro chotsitsimula pamlengalenga, kuthandiza omwe ali nawo kuti akhazikike ndi kuganiza bwino. Chifukwa chiyani simungakhale munthu wotero? Aliyense akalephera kudziletsa, khalani mawu oganiza bwino. Ndipo pamapeto pake mukatsegula pakamwa panu kuti mulankhule—chimene chidzakhala chochitika chachilendo—aliyense amangomvetsera.
Izi zidzakupatsani mphamvu zambiri, ndikusandutsani kukhala mtsogoleri waluso, wachete. Anthu amene ali pafupi nanu akamaona kuti ndinu wodekha komanso womasuka nthawi zonse, ndipo mumalankhula mwachidule komanso mogwira mtima, adzasangalala ndi inuyo.

Pezani ena kukukhulupirirani mwa kukhala wodalirika ndi wachindunji.

Anthu achete nthawi zambiri amakhala aluso pazochitika zomwe zimafuna kuti ena aziwakhulupirira. Kaŵirikaŵiri zophokosozo zimawonekera kukhala zachabechabe, zachabechabe, ndi zodzikonda. Vumbulutsani mawonekedwe anu atsopano ndikumulola kuti atenge ulamuliro. Ndipo mwina mwazindikira kuti anthu onse - mwachangu kwambiri - abwera kudzatembenukira kwa inu.
Chidwi chatsopanochi mwa inu chiyenera kukupangani kukhala odalirika. Kuyanjana komwe kumakuzungulirani sikudzakhala kosokoneza monga kale, ndipo izi zidzasiya mpata woganizira zomwe mwalonjeza. Khalani ndi mzimu umenewo, makamaka ngati mwakhala mukuvutika ndi mavuto ameneŵa kwa nthaŵi yaitali.

Dzidziweni nokha, ndi kutsutsa;

Ngati mukuganiza kuti ndiwe waphokoso komanso wosasamala (ndipo ngati ndiwe waphokoso komanso wosasamala), ganizirani zolinga zanu. Mukakhala pansi kuti mudye ndi banja lanu, tcherani khutu ku malingaliro ndi makhalidwe omwe mumadzipangitsa kukhala othamangitsidwa. Kenako yambani kusankha chinthu chimodzi ndikuchita zosiyana. Mukufuna kuyamba kucheza za mbatata yosenda? Kanizani zokhumba zanu. Pitirizani kusankha nkhondo zanu.
Yambani pang'onopang'ono, ndithudi. Simungatembenuke mwadzidzidzi kuchoka ku kulankhula ndi kukhala wobisa. Sankhani mphindi imodzi kapena ziwiri pa tsiku limene mukufuna kunena miseche, ndipo yesetsani kukhala wodzisunga. Zidzakhala zosavuta ndi nthawi.