Uwulawula njani umsindo womntwana wakho?

Uwulawula njani umsindo womntwana wakho?

Ingcali kwezemfundo yaseMelika kunye nomcebisi wagqiba kwelokuba uchonge iindlela ezintathu kunye nezicwangciso zokuthomalalisa abantwana kwaye balawule umsindo wabo, kwaye ngaloo ndlela banciphise nakuphi na ukuziphatha ndlongo abanokuthi babhenele kuko, njengoko bekwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo kwaye baphendule iimeko abajongene nazo.

Ingcaphephe yaseMelika ejongene nokukhuliswa kwabantwana, uGqirha Jeffrey Bernstein, uthe kwinqaku elipapashwe yi “Psychology Today” nelijongwe yi “Al Arabiya.net” ukuba kukho iindlela ezintathu ezisebenzayo zokunceda ukunciphisa umsindo womntwana onokuthi utata nomama bamkele. ukuze baphucule indlela yokuziphatha yabantwana babo.

Iqhinga lokuqala

Ngokuphathelele isicwangciso sokuqala athetha ngaso uBernstein, “kukufundisa umntwana iindlela zokulawula iimvakalelo,” ngokukhuthaza umntwana ukuba athabathel’ indawo iingcinga ezingafanelekanga ngeengcinga ezinovelwano nezibhetyebhetye kwisiqu sakhe. Ndimbi yaye akukho nto indifaneleyo konke konke,” qeqesha umntwana wakho ukuba athi: “Ewe, kunzima, kodwa ayisosiphelo sehlabathi.” Oku kuthetha ukuhlaziya iinkolelo ezingakhiyo zibe ziinkolelo eziyingenelo ngakumbi emntwaneni yaye kwabo bamngqongileyo ngokunjalo.

Ingcaphephe kwezemfundo ithi utata nomama bafanele bamncede umntwana abone aze acel’ umngeni iinkolelo ezingakhiyo, baze endaweni yazo basebenzise amazwi awakhayo nabonisa ithemba.

Le ngcali ikwancomela ukuba umntwana afundiswe ukuba angangxami xa esabela, yaye ithi: “Mkhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba aphefumlele phezulu xa enomsindo. Bafundise ukuphefumla kancinane ngeempumlo zabo kwaye bakhuphe ngomlomo wabo. Ukuphefumla nzulu rhoqo kunokunceda ukuthomalalisa kwiimeko ezicinezelayo.”

Iqhinga lesibini

Ngokuphathelele icebo lesibini, “kukukhuthaza ukunxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nokuphulaphula ngenyameko.” UBernstein uncomela ukuba utata nomama baqinisekise ukuba umntwana uziva ekhululekile ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe ngaphandle kokoyika isigwebo okanye ukohlwaywa. imvakalelo yemvelo, yaye kulungile ukuba nomsindo.” Kodwa kukwabalulekile ukuyivakalisa ngendlela efanelekileyo.”

Wongezelela athi, “Xa umntwana wakho enomsindo, phulaphula ngenyameko kwizinto ezimxhalabisayo ngaphandle kokumphazamisa okanye ukuzibetha ngoyaba iimvakalelo zakhe. Cinga ngento abayithethayo ukubonisa ukuba uyayiqonda indlela abavakalelwa ngayo kwaye uyakuqinisekisa oko kuya kubanceda bazive beviwa yaye kuya kuwuthomalalisa umsindo wabo.”

Isicwangciso sesithathu

Ngokuphathelele icebo lesithathu lokulawula umsindo womntwana, “kukufundisa ubuchule bokucombulula iingxaki nokucombulula iingxabano,” njengoko uBernstein esithi kuyimfuneko ukunceda umntwana “abone iimeko, iziganeko, okanye abantu abadla ngokumcaphukisa. umsindo, ngokuchonga ezi zivuseleli ngendlela eyenza kube nokwenzeka ngcono ukulindela nokulawula indlela abasabela ngayo ngokweemvakalelo.”

Wongezelela esithi: “Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba anikise ngeembono aze ahlolisise izicombululo ezahlukahlukeneyo kwiingxaki okanye iingxabano abajamelana nazo, mfundise ukucinga ngemiphumo yezenzo zakhe nempembelelo yazo kwabanye, aze akhuthaze uvelwano nokuqonda.”

Uhlabela mgama esithi, “Nceda umntwana wakho akhulise uvelwano ngokumkhuthaza ukuba acinge ngendlela abanye abasenokuvakalelwa ngayo kwimeko ethile. Oku kunokubanceda bahlakulele ukuqonda ngakumbi kunye nesimo sengqondo sovelwano, nto leyo enokukhokelela ekwehliseni umsindo wabo.”

Yaye umbhali, uBernstein, uqukumbela ngokuthi, “Kuyimfuneko ukukhumbula ukuba umntwana ngamnye wahlukile, yaye kuyimfuneko ukuyila amacebo afanelekileyo ngokweminyaka yakhe nakwinqanaba lokukhula kwakhe. Ukuqina, umonde kunye nenkxaso zingundoqo ekuncedeni umntwana wakho ukulawula umsindo wakhe ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba usoloko unenkxalabo ngomsindo womntwana wakho okanye ukuba umsindo wakhe uyacaphukisa okanye uyingozi, kusenokuba luncedo ukufuna ulwalathiso kwingcali enobuchule, njengogqirha wengqondo yabantwana.

Kuyaphawuleka ukuba uGqr. Jeffrey Bernstein ngumqeqeshi wabazali kunye nesazi ngengqondo esaziwayo eUnited States, kwaye uneminyaka engaphezu kwama-30 yamava ekunikeni iingcebiso kubantwana, abafikisayo, abatshatileyo kunye neentsapho.Ukwathatha inxaxheba kwiisemina kunye neziganeko ezingokuziphatha kwabantwana, yaye uneencwadi ezininzi neempapasho ezishicilelweyo.

Uqikelelo lukaMaguy Farah lwehoroscope yonyaka ka-2023