Umlibala njani umntu omthandayo wakulahla?

Ngowona mbuzo unzima, nokuba sizama kangakanani na ukubuza iimpendulo ngawo, impendulo eqinisekileyo ayikaziwa, akukho nto inokukwenza ulibale uthando obuphupha ngalo iminyaka okanye umntu onamathele kuye intliziyo yakho, ngaphandle kwakho. akukho lula ukulibala nokulandela ubomi ngokungathi akwenzekanga nto.

Awunangqondo kwaye uzibuze, ngaba ndiyakwazi ukugqiba indlela ndedwa?

Ngaba niya kuzibamba xa nibona imifanekiso enidibanisayo, ngaba niya kulila xa kukhankanywa igama lakhe? 

Namhlanje ku-Ana Salwa, kunye namava abantu abaye bahamba kwinqanaba elifanayo - kwaye abaninzi babo - sikushwankathele isethi yezisombululo eziza kukunceda ulibale umntu oye wangcatsha intliziyo yakho, okanye wahlukana nawe. ixesha kwiimeko ezithile.

Gxininisa kwimpumelelo yakho yobungcali

Emva kokwahlukana, usenokufumana ixesha elininzi ngaphambili, ngokuqhelekileyo obuya kulichitha uzilungiselela ukuba uphume naye okanye uchithe naye naphi na. Kakade ke, wawudla ukuthatha imizuzu emihlanu ngaphambi komsebenzi, kwaye ngexesha leyure nganye yomsebenzi, kwaye unciphise umsebenzi ukudibana naye okanye ukuthetha naye ngefowuni, lonke eli xesha lelakho ngoku, kwaye indlela engcono yokuyisebenzisa. kukuyabela ukwenza into eluncedo eya kukuzisa impumelelo. Ewe kunjalo, ungayabela omnye umntu, kodwa amava lixesha lakho elixabisekileyo ekufuneka utyale imali ekuphuhliseni ishishini lakho.

Khumbula ezona meko zimbi awayenazo ngakuwe

Nantoni na eyenzekayo phakathi kwenu nobabini, unokuchitha ixesha elininzi ucinga ngokumnika elinye ithuba. Ngoko ke, nokuba luluhlu lwezinto ezilungileyo kunye nezingalunganga, okanye ikopi ye-imeyile enamandla kakhulu endikuthumelele yona ngexesha leengxaki ojongene nazo, musa ukulahla isidima sakho, kwaye womeleze ukuzinza kwakho ngezi zinto ezimbi ezishiye impembelelo enkulu. ebomini bakho naye.

Dibana nomnye umntu, kwaye uvule intliziyo yakho kwakhona ukuze uthande

Buza abahlobo bakho malunga nendlela abaye balibala ngayo nge-ex, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuva into enje, "Kufuneka uphume kwaye udibane nabantu abatsha!" (Ukuba ubuyindoda icebiso mhlawumbi beliya kuba “Masiye kusela size sidibane namantombazana!”) Kodwa vele ubuyele kubomi bakho basekuhlaleni ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Kusenokukothusa ukuba bangaphi abantu abafuna ukuthetha nawe, abakuhlonelayo nabakuxabisayo, ngokungafaniyo nomntu owawumthanda waza wakushiya.

Musa ukuthetha ngaye kwaye ungakhali ngenxa yokwahlukana kwakhe phambi komnye wabahlobo bakho

Xa intliziyo yakho yaphukile, kulula kakhulu ukuba uhlale nabahlobo kwaye uthethe ngayo yonke le ntlungu uzivayo kuba umsebenzi wabo kukuxhasa kwaye uncede uvuke kwakhona, kodwa qaphela ukuba oku kuba ngumkhwa wakho osisigxina, unokuthi ngequbuliso ube ngaphandle. isithandwa kwaye ngaphandle abahlobo kakhulu. Ukuba uthetha kakhulu malunga nexesha elidlulileyo, yima ngoku. Umyalezo wakho ufikile ukususela kusuku lokuqala. Ziqeqeshe ukuba uthethe ngezinye izinto nabahlobo bakho, yaye uya kufumanisa ukuba uzilibele ngokupheleleyo.

Yandisa ukuzithemba kwakho

Guqula umsindo wakho ube sisibaso esinokusetyenziswa xa usenza umthambo, umzekelo, okanye wenze nayiphi na enye into oyithandayo ekwenza uzive ulawula izinto. Musa ukuvumela onke amandla angalunganga akujikelezileyo ukuba agxininise phezu kwakho, kodwa uwaqondise kwimisebenzi eyinzuzo kuwe nakumzimba wakho.

Imela ngamandla akho angagungqiyo

Nokuba sithini na isiphelo sebali lakho lothando, kukho amabali amabi ngakumbi kunawe, vala ucango emva kwakho kwaye uhambe kuhambo oluya kwindalo, nokuba luhambo olude, okanye inkampu okanye ukutyelela ilizwe obusoloko ulifuna. ukundwendwela. Kulula ukuziva ungento yanto ingakumbi emva kokuba isithandwa sakho sikubeke eshelufini, kodwa nguwe kuphela onokungqina ngenye indlela. Isithukuthezi sibulala zonke iimvakalelo ezintle nezihle, ngoko ke makungakubulala, kwaye uphume ngaphandle, kude ne-cage owawuzivalele kuyo, kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba ubomi abupheli ngomntu omnye, kodwa bubandakanya wonke umntu obamkelayo. kwaye uyivuselele kwakhona.

Lahla yonke into enokukukhumbuza ngaye

Ewe, lahla yonke imiyalezo enikhumbuza ixesha elidlulileyo, ndalinda iminyaka emibini ngaphambi kokuba ndilahle zonke iileta nemifanekiso kwaye ndisasaze amathoyizi, amakhandlela kunye nezipho ezindikhumbuza ngaye, kodwa ndakwenza oko ndaza ndakhululeka ngonaphakade. Ndihleli kwidrowa yedesika yam ixesha elide, kwaye nangona imile, ilawule iimvakalelo zam yonke imihla. Ngoko yisuse kwaye uya kuziva ukhululekile, ukuzalwa kwakhona ngaphandle kwexesha elidlulileyo elibuhlungu.