Noba ulunge kangakanani na kodwa bakho abakucaphukelayo.

Sisoloko sinombuzo ocinezelayo esizibuza wona ngenxa yobudlelwane bethu bendalo, kutheni lo mntu endizondayo? Kutheni endinqwenelela ukuthukwa ndimfune?
Kwaye asiyifumani impendulo enengqiqo kolu hlobo lombuzo, njengoko kungaxhomekeke kwizenzo zethu kuphela, kodwa kunokuba kuhambelana nokuziphatha kunye neemvakalelo ezibonakalayo zabanye.
Intiyo yenye yeentlobo zeemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezoyisayo ingqondo, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ibonakala ngendlela yezenzo ezikrwada kunye namagama kwaye inokuba nemvakalelo kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye kwabanye ikwimo yokungahoyi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha le mvakalelo. Akahambi naziphi na izenzo zangaphandle, kodwa uhlala engcwatywe ngaphakathi. Ngokwenzululwazi, izazinzulu ziye zafumanisa ukuba kukho iindawo ezisebuchotsheni ezibangela ezi mvakalelo, yaye ziqala ukuvela ngaphambi kokuba zivele ngokwemo yezenzo nezenzo.
Ngokwengqondo, sisiphumo sokuziphatha okunxulumene neemvakalelo zethu zangaphakathi ngokubhekiselele komnye umntu ngenxa yeemvakalelo esizifihlayo ezinceda ukuvelisa inzondo, kwaye enye yezi mvakalelo kukoyika. .
Kwaye ukuba siqaphela ukuba uninzi lweemvakalelo ezisisiseko azizange zizalwe ngenjongo yomntu othiyiweyo, ungumphathi owenza umsebenzi wakhe, okanye umntu okhutheleyo okanye othandwayo onobudlelwane obuninzi, okanye umntu osisityebi onemoto. elinye iqela, elinjengomntu othiyileyo ukumbetha, ukumeba, ukusasaza iindaba zakhe kumphathi wakhe emsebenzini, okanye ukuphembelela abo bamngqongileyo ukuba bamshiye yedwa.
Nantsi eyona miqondiso ibalulekileyo ebonisa intiyo:

Ukungazamkeli izimvo zakho:

Ukuba ubukwenye yeeseshoni, qaphela ubungakanani ayamkelayo kwaye uyavumelana nezimvo zakho.Ukuba uhlala echasa kwaye echasa ngaphandle kokuthethelelwa kwaye uhlala ehlala, ke isikweko seemvakalelo zokuzonda kuwe.Napha, kwakhona. , kumele kubekho umahluko phakathi kokuba umthiyile okanye ukuba ngokwemvelo ungumntu ozichasayo iimbono nocinga ukuba usoloko echanile.
umbono:

Abantu abaninzi babelana ngezimvo zabo ngabantu kunye nabo basondeleyo kubo, abahlobo, usapho, okanye abantu abaziyo kunye noogxa bakho, ke ukwazi ukuba umntu okuthiyileyo uthini ngawe kunye nabo bamngqongileyo kuya kukunika ubungqina obuqinisekileyo beemvakalelo zalo mntu kuwe okanye kuwe. ukubaqaphela ngokuthatha isikhundla sangaphambili kuwe ngaphandle kolwazi lwakho.
izenzo:

Qaphela indlela lo mntu uziphatha ngayo nawe, ukuziphatha kukunika inkcazo ecacileyo malunga nendlela abantu abavakalelwa ngayo ngawe, umzekelo, ukungayinaki impendulo kuwe okanye ukuhlala kude nokuvula incoko nawe, oku bubungqina benzondo, okanye ukuhlolisisa indlela athetha ngayo nawe kwaye uyithelekise nendlela athetha ngayo nabanye, kwakhona uncumo olubandayo okanye olungeyonyani kunye nokunxibelelana Ngokungenasiphelo nawe ngexesha lengxoxo kuthathwa njengobungqina bentiyo.
Ukutolika ngendlela engeyiyo into oyithethayo:

Nantoni na oyithethayo, kwaye nantoni na oyithethayo, iya kuhlala inetoliko engalunganga, kwaye amagama athwala ngaphezulu kunokuba afanele ukuba, kwaye athwale icala elichaseneyo nenjongo yakho okanye ayizange idlule engqondweni yakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuziphatha kuba nobutshaba ngaphandle kwesiganeko: le meko ayifuni ngcaciso, umthiyile unokuthi athethe ngokucacileyo kuwe ukuba uyakuthiya. Okanye wenze ngendlela ecacileyo, etyhilwa yintshukumo yobuso, okanye amagama.
Andiziva ndikhululekile xa nawe:

Kwaye esi senzo sichanekile ngokupheleleyo, ngoko kufuneka ubukele ukuba uwedwa kwindawo kwaye ujonge ukuziphatha kwakhe, uziva ekhululekile, kwaye ngaba wena ukhululekile kule seshoni okanye akunjalo? Kodwa ke kufuneka mahlule phakathi komntu okuthiyileyo nokuthiyileyo, nomntu oneentloni nongazinzanga ngendalo.
Izizathu ezenziweyo:

Angathetha kakhulu phambi kwabantu ukuba nguwe omthiyileyo kwaye akasazi isizathu sokumthiya kwakho.Oku kukuzithethelela phambi kokuba azithethelele phambi kwakho isizathu sokuzonda kwakhe kuwe. kwaye ngaphambi kokwenza nasiphi na isenzo esivela kuye sicacile kuwe, yena kunye nawe uyazi kakuhle ukuba akalunganga kwaye iimvakalelo zakhe azinasizathu ngokwenyani kwaye ngokwenyani kuwe.
Kwaye iFaisal apha kukuxolelana nawe, ukuba awuthanga uxolelanise nawe ngokuqinisekileyo awusayi kubuyelana nabanye abantu, kwaye unokuzonda umntu ngaphandle kwezizathu ezicacileyo, kwaye into engekhoyo ayimniki ngokuqinisekileyo. ngokwakho, ngoko ubathanda njani abanye?

hlela ngu

Psychology Consultant

URyan Sheikh Mohammed