Ujongana njani nomntu okutshintshileyo?

Sichitha inxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bethu sifuna uthando okanye ubudlelwane bokwenyani obufezekisa ukuzinza ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokwanela kokuziphatha.Sihlala sifuna umntu osixhasayo kwaye eme nathi kwaye asinike ukuzithemba kwiziqu zethu kwaye asenze sizive ukuba siphila kwaye Ukufezekisa injongo kuye.Xa sifumana lo mntu ebesisoloko simlindile, siya kumnika yonke into Amandla ethu ayinto yonke esinayo yothando kunye nengqalelo, kwaye sirhoxisa izinto esizithandayo kwaye sitshintshe izinto zethu eziphambili kuphela ukuba ibe yinto yonke, kodwa ... Ngaba siye sacinga ngotshintsho oluya kusenza singqubeke ematyeni enyani?

Masivumelane kuqala ukuba zonke ubudlelwane zihamba ngamaqhuma, ezinye zazo ezitshabalalisa ubudlelwane kwaye ezinye zenza kube sisiphene esilula kwaye ezinye zazo azichaphazeli.

Into yokuqala ethi qatha engqondweni yakho xa utshintsha oyena mntu ubalulekileyo ebomini bakho, yintoni oyenzileyo kuye? Kwenzeka ntoni kuthi? Yintoni eyamenza wahamba?

Ulahleka kwi-whirlpool yokuthelekisa phakathi kwexesha elidlulileyo kunye nexesha langoku, kwaye xa ucinga ngakumbi, ngakumbi iimvakalelo zakho ziya kubandezeleka, kodwa khumbula ukuba ukungahoywa kunye nokutshintsha kolona hlobo lubi kakhulu lokuvalelisa, ngoko ndikucebisa ukuba ulandele le mithetho zikhusele kule ntlungu:

 Qinisekisa ukuba isiyalo asiyi kwenza nto, kodwa siya kwandisa inxeba lakho, kuba uya kuva kuphela izizathu ezingakholisiyo ezazingekho ngaphambili.

 Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphawula ukuba iinkqubano zakhe ziqhelekile kuye wonke umntu okufutshane naye kwaye uyaziphepha iincoko ezinzulu phakathi kwakho, ngoko zilumkele ngakumbi kwaye uqale ukuzilungisa.

 - Yeka ukwenza umzamo wokulungisa ubudlelwane.Ubudlelwane obunempilo abufuni mzamo, kwaye ukuba buyakwenza, kufuneka buvela kumacala omabini.

 Kuya kufuneka uhlengahlengise izinto eziphambili zakho ezizitshintshileyo ukuze azibuyisele wena kancinci kancinci

 Phinda uqhagamshelane kunye kwaye ukhathalele abahlobo oye wabatyeshela

 - Musa ukumenza asole ngenxa yesizathu sokutshintsha kwakhe kuwe, iintsalela zokungavumelani zinokuthi zibe nefuthe lokungalingani okanye ukwanda kweengxaki, kodwa utshintsho kwiintsebenziswano kunye neemvakalelo azifanelekanga.

 -Mnike ixesha kunye nethuba kwaye ufumane izizathu ezilula kuye kangangexesha elithile, kwaye emva koko umbeke kwindawo emfaneleyo kanye ebomini bakho njengoko ekubeka.

 - Yiba sisipili kwiinkqubano zakhe nawe, oku kugcina isidima sakho kuwe.

Ujongana njani nokutshintsha kwesithandwa sakho ngakuwe?

 Uqhubana njani nomntu ongakuhoyiyo ngobukrelekrele?