Ngesikhathi soSuku Lomama, uyincoma kanjani ingane yakho?

Ngesikhathi soSuku Lomama, uyincoma kanjani ingane yakho?

Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi indlela ingane enconywa ngayo ibalulekile futhi kunezinhlobo zokuncoma ezingaba ngcono kunezinye. Nawa amathiphu ayi-7 asekelwe ebufakazini bokudumisa izingane ngempumelelo:

1. Dumisa izenzo, hhayi umuntu

Tusa imizamo yengane yakho, isu, nempumelelo, esikhundleni sezimfanelo engenakuzishintsha kalula (njengokuhlakanipha, ukugijima, noma ubuhle). Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi lolu hlobo "lokudumisa inqubo" luthuthukisa ugqozi lwangaphakathi lwezingane kanye nokubekezela lapho zibhekene nenselele. "Dumisani umuntu" (okungukuthi ukudumisa izimfanelo ezihambisana nomuntu) kwenza ingane igxile kakhulu emaphutheni akhe futhi ilahle kalula futhi izisole yona.

2. Ukudumisa okusekelayo

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukutusa kufanele kusekele ukuzimela kwengane futhi kukhuthaze ukuzethemba. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuze ubaba noma umama athi, “Kubonakala sengathi uwujabulele ngempela lowo mgomo,” esikhundleni sokuthi, “Ngijabule kakhulu lapho ushaya igoli.”

3. Gwema ukuziqhathanisa nabanye

Uma ukudumisa kusetshenziselwa ukuqhathanisa ingane nabanye, kuthuthukisa ukusebenza ngesikhathi esifushane. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lo mkhuba ungase uhlobane nabantu abahlulela ukusebenza kwabo kuphela ngokuphathelene nabanye kunokuba bafeze noma bajabulele imigomo yabo ngokwabo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi lokhu okutholakele kungase kungasebenzi kubantu abavela emasikweni ahlangene.

4. Ukwenza kube ngokwakho hhayi ukujwayela

Imiphumela yocwaningo yembula ukuthi ukuncoma ulwazi oluthile kusiza izingane zifunde ukuthuthukisa ukuziphatha kwazo esikhathini esizayo. Isibonelo, inkulumo ethi “Kufanele ubuyisele amathoyizi akho kubhasikidi noma ebhokisini uma usuqedile ukuwasebenzisa” isiza izingane zifunde izinto ezithile ezilindelekile.

Uma abazali bemane bethi “umsebenzi omuhle” ngemva kokuba ingane isihlele kabusha amathoyizi ayo, ingase ingazi ukuthi le nkulumo ibhekisela kuphi. Kufanele futhi kuqashelwe ukuthi ucwaningo lwakamuva luthole ukuthi ukudumisa okuvamile nokungaqondakali kungenza izingane zizibheke kabi. Umbono oyinhloko wokugwema lolu hlobo lokunconywa esidlangalaleni ukuthi kungase kungaziniki izingane umbono wokuthi zingathuthuka kanjani esikhathini esizayo.

5. Sebenzisa ukuthinta komzimba

Ucwaningo luphinde luphakamise ukuthi abazali bangasebenzisa ukuthinta (njengokukhomba izithupha) ukuze bakhuthaze izingane zabo ngezikhathi ezithile. Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi ukuthinta kungasebenza kahle kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni ukuzihlola kwezingane, okuwukwahlulela kwazo ukuthi zenza kanjani nokuthi zizizwa kanjani ngakho.

6. Thembeka

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lapho izingane zinomuzwa wokuthi abazali bazo banehaba noma abazitusi kahle, maningi amathuba okuba babe nokucindezeleka futhi bangenzi kahle ezifundweni zabo. Khonamanjalo, ucwaningo luye lwembula ukuthi ukudumisa ngokweqile (njengokuthi umzali uthi, "Lona umdwebo omuhle kakhulu engake ngawubona") kuhlotshaniswa nokuthuthukiswa kokuzethemba kwezingane, ukugwema izinselele, nokuthembela ngokweqile ekudumiseni.

7. Ukudumisa nokunaka okuhle

Ukudumisa kanye nokunaka okuhle noma ukusabela okuhle ngaphandle kwezwi (ukwanga, ukumomotheka, ukumbamba izandla, noma olunye uhlobo lothando olungokomzimba) kubonakala kuphumelela kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni ukuziphatha kwezingane.

Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi abazali akudingeki balandele yonke le mithetho ngokuphelele. Ngokwesibonelo, ucwaningo luye lwembula ukuthi inqobo nje uma iningi lokudumisa izingane zizwa (okungenani izikhathi ezintathu kwezine) kuwukudumisa okungokoqobo, izingane zibonisa ukuphikelela okwengeziwe nokuzihlola okuthuthukisiwe.