Ungavuthwa kanjani futhi ukhule ngokomzwelo?

Ungavuthwa kanjani futhi ukhule ngokomzwelo?

Umuntu angaba ohlakaniphile noma ofundile, kodwa uma efuna ukuhlakanipha kumelwe akhule ngokomzwelo.

Njengoba imizwa ingaba yizinto ezikhohlisayo, okungaba isizathu sokuthatha imikhuba emibi kalula, evimbela ukukhula komuntu okungokomzwelo okuhlala isikhathi eside nokukhula, ngokusho kwe-Hack Spirit.

Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha ezilandelayo zingase zibe izindlela zokubhekana nazo, kodwa umuntu udinga ukufunda ukuthi angakwephula kanjani uma efuna ukuvuthwa kakhulu ngokomzwelo:

1. Ukwenza izaba zokuhlala endaweni yokunethezeka

Izizathu zihlukile kunezaba. Kodwa ekugcineni zingasetshenziswa ngokushintshana. Umuntu kufanele abe nesibindi sokwethembeka kuye ngokwakhe. Lapho esaba ukwehluleka, ukulahlekelwa, noma ukwaliwa, ubheka izizathu zokuthi angaqali, ahlehlise, kodwa athethelele lokhu ngezaba.

Ngakho-ke, kumelwe akulungele ukubhekana nendaba ngokwethembeka, ngoba ngeke akwazi ukwenza izinguquko ekuphileni kwakhe ngaphandle kokuba enze lokho asaba ukukwenza.

2. Gwema ukuzikhathaza

Uma amanga umuntu azitshela wona yingxenye yokuqala, khona-ke ingxenye yesibili izomphoqa ngempela ukuba abhekane nokwesaba kwakhe, okungukuthi, avume ukwesaba kwakhe futhi akhethe ukuqhubekela phambili.

Lapho enza isinqumo esinengqondo sokuthatha isinyathelo naphezu kokungakhululeki kwakhe, ukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakhe nokuzikholelwa futhi azuze ukukhuthazela. Asikho isinqamuleli, futhi lesi sinyathelo asikwazi ukwenziwa ngokwethiyori, kodwa kufanele kuthathwe izinyathelo ezingokoqobo. Lapho umuntu eba nemizwa yokungakhululeki ehambisana nokukhula, uba ngcono ekubhekaneni nayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

3. Ukuzama ukubalekela imizwa “emibi”

"Amavayibhu Amahle Kuphela" enza isitikha esihle kakhulu. Kodwa kuningi okunobuthi obuxubene nemizwa. Lokhu akusho ukuthi umuntu akakwazi ukuzuza ngokuphumula nokufunda ukungesabi ngezizathu ezilula.

Nokho, lokho okubizwa ngokuthi imizwa “emibi” nakho kuyingxenye evamile yokuphila. Ngokuvamile emzamweni wokuqeda le mizwa engathandeki, ishiywa ingaxazululiwe noma kufunwa izindlela zokuyigwema. Uma umuntu efuna ukukhula ngokomzwelo, kumelwe afunde ukuqaphela imizwa yakhe futhi ayivumele ithole amazwi anempilo.

4. Ukuhlonza ngokweqile ngemizwa

Ngezindlela eziningi, umphakathi ozungeze umuntu ungabonisa ukuthi imizwa ibaluleke kakhulu kunaleyo eyiyo.

Imizwa ingaba izimpawu ezinamandla kakhulu ezinikeza ukuqonda kanye nezinkomba, kodwa kukhona elinye iqiniso elibalulekile, phezu kwalo elokuthi imizwa ayiwona amaqiniso nokuthi izenzo azikwazi ukusekelwe emizweni kuphela, ngoba umuntu angagcina ehlonze ngokuseduze kakhulu imizwa edlula kubo.. Ngakho udala izindaba ngaleyo mizwa engamenza akhubeke noma azicekele phansi.

5. Sesha i-scapegoat engokomzwelo

Umuntu kufanele azibophezele ngokugcwele nangokuphelele kukho konke ahlangabezana nakho, ngoba uhlaka acubungula ngalo konke okuhlangenwe nakho luhlala lungaphakathi.

Okusho ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani kubo, akuzona izaba noma izaba zokuphendula, njengoba kulula kakhulu kumuntu ukusola izenzo zakhe njengokusabela kothile noma enye into. Ukuzitika ngalolu hlobo lokuziphatha kukhubaza ukukhula kwemizwelo.

6. Ukubambelela kokwedlule

Kuyimvelo yomuntu ukwenyanya okubangela ubuhlungu, kodwa ukufunda izifundo kuyinto enhle. Kuphinde kube nomehluko omkhulu phakathi kwalokhu nokunamathela kulokho okwafika ngaphambili kwadlula. Ukubamba amagqubu noma ukucasuka, ukuhlale uzikhumbuza ukwehluleka kwakudala noma izikhathi ezibuhlungu, nokucabangela okwenzeka esikhathini esidlule kuqeda ukuzinza kwengqondo esikhathini samanje.

Umuntu usengafunda kulokho ahlangabezane nakho ngesikhathi esifanayo amukele ukuthi alukho ushintsho kuye. Kwesinye isikhathi umuntu udinga ukuthethelela abanye, futhi kwesinye isikhathi udinga ukuzixolela yena kuphela.

7. Ukukhathalela kakhulu ukujabulisa abanye

Abantu abafisa kakhulu ukujabulisa abanye bavame ukuhlupheka:

• Ubunzima bokwamukela ukwaliwa.
• Ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngokuthi abanye bacabangani ngabo.
• Hamba nemibono noma imibono yabanye abantu ukuze nje ubonakale uthandeka kakhulu, ngethemba lokuthandeka kakhudlwana.
• Ukuzishaya indiva ukusiza abanye.
• Ukulangazelela ukuvunyelwa nokutuswa abanye ngomuzwa wokwaneliseka.
• Fihla imizwa, imibono, nezidingo uma zingathandwa.

Yebo kunzima ukungabi nandaba ukuthi abantu bacabangani ngathi, futhi wonke umuntu uyakuthanda ukuthandwa. Kodwa lapho lezi zici ziba yizinto eziyinhloko ezikhathazayo, umuntu udela inhlalakahle yakhe engokomzwelo.

Ukukhula kwemizwelo kusho ukukwazi ukubhekana nohlangothi oluthambile lwemizwa. Kumayelana nokubeka imingcele nokufunda ukuthi ungazimela kanjani. Lesi sinyathelo ngeke sithathwe uma nje umuntu ehlala eyilahla noma ekhaphela imizwa yakhe ngomunye umuntu. Ochwepheshe beluleka ngokuthatha lezi zinyathelo ezilandelayo ukuze ube umuntu onolwazi futhi ovuthiwe:

• Thatha indlela enengqondo futhi uzibheke ngokwethembeka.
• Ukufuna ukubhekana namaphuzu okuphunyuka ngokomzwelo.
• Zibophezele ngokugcwele ngemizwa.
• Ukubekezelela amaphutha kodwa ngaphandle kokunaba noma ihaba.
• Ukuzimisela ukuphumela obala ngokuthi lowo muntu uzizwa kanjani.
• Thola izidingo futhi ubeke imingcele ukuze uzivikele.

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