Vumela umzimba wakho ukhulume

Enye yezindawo emzimbeni wakho ezikhuluma kakhulu ngendlela esizizwa ngayo izandla nezingalo zethu.

Kwesinye isikhathi inkulumo yesandla nengalo ihloselwe, kodwa isikhathi esiningi yenzeka ngokwemvelo, kungahlosiwe.

• Ukusho okuthile okubalulekile: Izandla ezivulekile nezingalo, ikakhulukazi ezeluliwe, nezimpama ziphambi komzimba ziphakeme kakhulu, kubonisa ukuthi into oyishoyo ibalulekile, ikakhulukazi lapho abantu bekhuluma phambi kwabantu, umunwe okhombayo noma isandla sinyakaza ngaphezu kwamahlombe. iqinisekisa umbono womuntu.

Kodwa ngokuvamile abantu bangase bathole isikhulumi esikhomba iminwe ngokucasulayo.

• Ukuvuleleka nobuqotho: Uma abantu befuna ukwethembeka noma ubuqotho futhi bezobamba isandla esisodwa noma zombili ngokumelene nomunye umuntu, abadlali bebhola abenze icala ngokuvamile basebenzisa le nkulumo ukuze bazame ukukholisa unompempe ukuthi abenzanga lutho.
• uvalo (tension): uma umuntu ebeka izandla emlonyeni, lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi kukhona akufihlayo noma unovalo.
• Ukudlala ngezandla: Ngokwesibonelo, ukucofa itafula ngeminwe nakho kubonisa ukuthi ucindezelekile, kanye nokuthwala isikhwama noma isikhwama semali phambi komzimba.
• I-sublimity: Abantu abazizwa bephakeme ngawe babonakala bekhululekile izandla zabo ziboshwe ngemuva kwekhanda labo.

Isilevu futhi uvame ukuphakama, lesi sisho singokwesiko kubameli, ababaleki kanye nabanye ochwepheshe abanomuzwa wokuthi bazi ngaphezu kwakho.

• Esinye isibonakaliso sobude ukubeka izandla zakho ephaketheni lakho isithupha sakho siphumele ngaphandle.
• Ukuzizwa ukuzivikela: izandla zigoqwe zaqina esifubeni (ehlombe), okuyinkulumo yakudala yokuzivikela ekhombisa ukuthi uyazivikela.

Abantu babuye basebenzise le nkulumo lapho belalele othile, ukukhombisa ukuphikisa kwabo akushoyo.

Le nkulumo ingamane isho ukuthi lowo muntu ubanda (akathandi futhi akakhulumi).

• Ukucabanga okuningi: lapho umuntu eletha isandla ekhanda lakhe futhi welula umunwe wenkomba esihlathini sakhe, futhi yonke eminye iminwe ibekwe ngaphansi komlomo, ngokuvamile kubonakala sengathi umuntu ucabanga ngokujulile. Lapho umuntu ephulula isilevu, uvame ukucabanga ngento ebalulekile noma enze isinqumo.
• Ukuzizwa ukhangwa: Uma amadoda akhangwe othile, ngezinye izikhathi abamba amadlebe, kuyilapho abesifazane bethinta ngokuphindaphindiwe isigaxa sezinwele zabo noma bebeka izinwele zabo ngemva kwezindlebe zabo.

• Ukuqamba amanga: Ziningi izinkulumo ezikhomba ukuthi umuntu unamanga futhi ukuzethemba kufanele ulindele ukuthi lowo muntu uzoveza inkulumo engaphezu kweyodwa.Izinkulumo zihlanganisa ukubeka izandla phambi komlomo wakho, ukuthinta ikhala, ukucikica amehlo, ukuthinta indlebe yakho, ukunwaya intamo yakho, noma ukubeka umunwe wakho noma iminwe yakho emlonyeni wakho.