Mukakonda munthu amene sakukondani, njira yothetsera vutoli ndi yotani ndipo mumathetsa bwanji kukhumudwa kwanuko?

Moyo si wathu, nthawi zina umakhala wovuta kwa ife, kotero timakhumudwa ndikukhumudwa, ndipo nthawi zina masoka ang'onoang'onowa amatitsogolera ku chizolowezi cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo, zomwe zingatifikitse ku zovuta kwambiri kuposa zomwe tikukumana nazo, ndiye yankho la zokhumudwitsa zazing'onozo ndipo timagonjetsa bwanji malingaliro athu pomwe timakonda yemwe si wathu ndipo sitidzakhalanso .

Koposa zonse, muyenera kudziwa monga mudakonda nthawi ino, mudzakondanso, kukhumudwa koyamba kwa chikondi sikumapeto kwa dziko lapansi, bwerani pafupi ndi iwo omwe amakukondani, ndipo yang'anani zomwe muli nazo m'manja mwanu lero ndi onetsetsani kuti amene sadziwa kufunika kwanu lero adzadziwa tsiku lina, koma simuyenera kumudikirira osati Mukuyenera kukhala zaka za moyo wanu mukuyembekeza chikondi chomwe chidzakupangani kukhala munthu wonyozeka, wopanda ulemu uliwonse. .

Onetsetsani kuti pali wina amene amakufunirani ndi kukukondani kwinakwake, dalirani Mulungu pazochitika zanu zonse, ndipo chimwemwe ndi chikhutiro chidzakhala gawo lanu mawa lapafupi.

Lero mu Ana Salwa, tikambirana zinthu zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi vuto lililonse lamalingaliro lomwe mukukumana nalo, koma, palibe chomwe chingakupangitseni kuiwala mutuwo ngati simudzithandiza nokha, ndikupanga chisankho kuti mupitilize moyo wanu. ndi chidaliro ndi kupambana.

1- Chisoni momwe mungafunire, koma, musakhale mkaidi wachisoni ichi: palibe chomwe chimalepheretsa wokonda kumva chisoni ndi chisoni, chifukwa winayo samamva chikondi, chikondi ndi kukhulupirika kwake kwa iye, koma nthawi zina. Nkhaniyi ikhoza kukhala chifukwa chotulutsira zomwe zili mkati mwake kuchokera ku ululuwo, koma malinga ngati akudziwa nthawi yomwe ayenera kusiya kukhala ndi vutoli kuti ayambe gawo lina la moyo kutali ndi vutoli, ndipo adziwe kuti pali zatsopano. kuyambira pambuyo pa chisoni chonsechi chomwe akukumana nacho, ndipo ayenera kuzindikira kuti pali chiyambi cha mapeto onse.

2- Mupeweni munthu ameneyu mmene mungathere: mwambi umati (kutali ndi diso, kutali ndi mtima), ndipo ndime ili ndi ntchito pankhaniyi Monga Facebook, kuti adziwe kuti sangalankhule naye; osachepera mosavuta ngati ali ndi kufooka m'maganizo.

3- Onetsetsani kuti zinthu zanu zikanakhala bwino popanda munthu uyu: amene akufuna kukhala kutali ndi wokondedwa wake ayenera kutsimikiza kuti ali bwino, ndipo adzakhala wokhazikika. Kuposa kupitiriza naye, ndipo ayenera kuzindikira kuti munthu uyu ndi mfundo yake yofooka, choncho ayenera kuchotsa mfundoyi, mpaka atakhala bwino, wamphamvu, komanso wokhazikika.

4- Osadzudzula amene umamukonda, ndipo usadzidzudzule: nkosaloledwa kumudzudzula mnzakeyo chifukwa sadasinthane naye zakukhosi, monga momwe chikondi ndi chikondi zilili kwa inu. ndi za gulu lina, ndipo izi ndi zinthu zomwe nthawi zambiri sizingodzifunira, ndiponso sizili pansi pa ulamuliro wa munthu.

5- Chotsani chilichonse chomwe chimakukumbutsani za iye, ndikuyambanso: muyenera kuchotsa zikumbutso, zomwe zimakukumbutsani, mwachitsanzo, kuti pali chithunzi cha inu ndi anzanu, kapena ngati adatenga nawo mbali. za masiku ake akubadwa ndi kumpatsa iye mphatso, zinthu izi ndipo nthawizonse kubwerera Zomverera kumbali ina, ndipo popanda ulamuliro.

  6- Awonetseni momveka bwino zachisoni chanu komanso chowonadi cha momwe mukumvera.Kugawana ndi ena kumachepetsa chisoni m'mitima mwathu: ndizothandiza kugawana ndi munthu yemwe mumamukhulupirira ndikumulemekeza zamalingaliro awa, chifukwa angapindule ndi ena. malangizo kuchotsa chikondi ichi, ndipo iye akhoza kuthandiza mmenemo. Ndipo izi zimathandiza kuchotsa ululu.

7- Khalani otanganidwa ndi inu nokha komanso tsogolo lanu: Zingakhale zothandiza kwambiri kuti wokonda adzitangwanitsa ndi zinthu zomwe zimamuthandiza kuchotsa kuganiza za munthu uyu. Ngati atanganidwa ndi ntchito, kapena zosangalatsa zina, zomwe zingamutengere kuchokera kumlengalenga kupita ku wina watsopano, ndipo nkhaniyi nthawi zambiri imapindulitsa anthu omwe amangokhalira kukonda munthu kapena chinachake.

8- Musafooke pamaso pa zakukhosi kwanu ndipo khalani kapolo wofooka: izi zimawakhudza anthu ena omwe angaganize kuti adutsa pa siteji ya munthu ameneyo, ndipo akhoza kugwera mmbuyo mwadzidzidzi, choncho achenjere mnzawo, Kukhala naye pamalo amodzi.

9- Yang'anani chikondi pamalo ena ndi munthu wina: palibe chomwe chimayiwala chikondi chomwe chalephera, ngati nkhani yachikondi yatsopano, koma iyenera kukhala yopambana, ndipo winayo amabwezera malingaliro achikondi.