Umkhohlwa kanjani umuntu omthandayo wakulahla?

Umbuzo onzima kakhulu, okuthi noma singazama kangakanani ukubuza izimpendulo ngawo, impendulo eqondile ayikaziwa, akukho okungakwenza ukhohlwe uthando obuphupha ngalo iminyaka noma umuntu onamathisele kuye inhliziyo yakho, ngaphandle kwakho, akulula ukukhohlwa nokulandela impilo sengathi akwenzekanga lutho.

Awunangqondo futhi uzibuze, ngiyakwazi ukuqedela umgwaqo ngedwa?

Uzozibamba uma usubona izithombe ezinihlanganisayo, uzokhala uma kuthiwa igama lakhe? 

Namuhla e-Ana Salwa, futhi kusukela kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu abaye badlula esigabeni esifanayo - futhi abaningi babo - sikufingqile isethi yezixazululo ezizokusiza ukhohlwe umuntu oye wakhaphela inhliziyo yakho, noma okuhlukanisile. isikhathi sezimo ezithile.

Gxila empumelelweni yakho yobungcweti

Ngemva kokuhlukana, ungase uthole isikhathi esiningi ngaphambili, obungasichitha ngokujwayelekile uzihlelela ukuphuma naye noma uchithe naye noma kuphi. Yiqiniso, wawuthatha imizuzu emihlanu ngaphambi komsebenzi, futhi phakathi nehora ngalinye lomsebenzi, futhi ufinyeze umsebenzi ukuze uhlangane naye noma ukhulume naye ocingweni, sonke lesi sikhathi sesakho manje, futhi indlela engcono kakhulu yokusebenzisa ngokunenzuzo. wukwabela ukwenza into ewusizo ezokulethela impumelelo. Yebo, ungayabela omunye umuntu, kodwa isipiliyoni yisikhathi sakho esiyigugu okufanele usifake ekuthuthukiseni ibhizinisi lakho.

Khumbula izimo zengqondo ezimbi kakhulu abenazo ngawe

Noma ngabe kwenzekani phakathi kwenu nobabili, ningakwazi ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nicabanga ngokumnika elinye ithuba. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuwuhlu lwezinto ezinhle nezimbi, noma ikhophi ye-imeyili enamandla kakhulu engikuthumelele yona phakathi nenye yezinkinga obhekane nazo, ungayekethisi isithunzi sakho, futhi uqinise ukuqina kwakho ngalezi zimbi ezishiye umthelela omkhulu. empilweni yakho naye.

Hlangana nomunye umuntu, uvule inhliziyo yakho futhi ukuze uthande

Buza abangani bakho mayelana nendlela abakhohlwe ngayo nge-ex, futhi cishe uzozwa into efana nokuthi, "Kufanele uphume uyohlangana nabantu abasha!" (Ukube ubuyindoda cishe iseluleko besingaba ukuthi “Asihambe siyophuza futhi sihlangane namantombazane!”) Kodwa mane ubuyele ekuphileni kwakho komphakathi ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Kungase kukumangaze ukuthi bangaki abantu abafuna ukukhuluma nawe, abakuhloniphayo nabakwazisayo, ngokungafani nomuntu owawumthanda futhi wakushiya.

Ungakhulumi ngaye futhi ungakhali ngenxa yokuhlukana kwakhe phambi komunye wabangane bakho

Uma inhliziyo yakho yonakele kulula kakhulu ukuhlala nabangani nixoxe ngabo bonke lobu buhlungu obuzwayo ngoba umsebenzi wabo wukukweseka nokukusiza ukuthi uvuke futhi, kodwa qaphela ukuthi lokhu kube umkhuba wakho ongapheli, ungase uvele ulahlekelwe isithandwa futhi ongenabo abangane futhi. Uma ukhuluma kakhulu ngesikhathi esedlule, yima manje. Umlayezo wakho ufikile kusukela osukwini lokuqala. Ziqeqeshele ukukhuluma ngezinye izinto nabangane bakho, futhi uzothola ukuthi usukhohliwe ngokuphelele ngakho.

Khulisa ukuzethemba kwakho

Guqula intukuthelo yakho ibe uphethiloli ozowusebenzisa lapho uzivocavoca, isibonelo, noma wenze noma iyiphi enye indlela yokuzilibazisa ekwenza uzizwe ulawula izinto. Ungavumeli wonke amandla amabi akuzungezile akulawule, kodwa aqondise emisebenzini enenzuzo kuwe nomzimba wakho.

Ummese ungamandla akho aqinile

Noma ngabe isiphetho sendaba yakho yothando, kunezindaba ezimbi kakhulu kunezakho, ngakho-ke vala umnyango ngemuva kwakho uthathe uhambo oluya emvelweni, kungaba uhambo olude, noma ukukhempa noma ukuvakashela izwe obukade ulifuna. ukuvakasha. Kulula ukuzizwa ungelutho ikakhulukazi ngemva kokuba isithandwa sakho sikubeke eshalofini, kodwa nguwena kuphela ongafakazela okuhlukile. Isizungu sibulala yonke imizwa emihle nemihle, ngakho-ke ungakuvumeli ukukubulala, futhi uphumele ngaphandle, kude nekheji owawuboshelwe kulo, futhi uzothola ukuthi impilo ayigcini ngomuntu oyedwa, kodwa ihlanganisa wonke umuntu owamukelayo, futhi iwuvuselele futhi.

Lahla konke okungase kukukhumbuze ngaye

Yebo, lahla yonke imilayezo enikhumbuza okwedlule, ngalinda iminyaka emibili ngaphambi kokulahla zonke izincwadi nezithombe futhi ngihambisa amathoyizi, amakhandlela nezipho ezingikhumbuza yena, kodwa ngakwenza futhi ngakhululeka unomphela. Sengihlale ekhabetheni lami ledeski isikhathi eside, futhi nakuba limile, liyilawula imizwa yami nsuku zonke. Ngakho-ke susa futhi uzozizwa ukhululekile, ukuzalwa kabusha ngaphandle kobuhlungu obudlule.