Xa umthanda umntu ongakuthandiyo siyintoni isisombululo kwaye ukoyisa njani ukuphoxeka kwakho ngokweemvakalelo?

Ubomi ayibobethu, ngamanye amaxesha bunzima kuthi, siyakhathazeka kwaye sibe buhlungu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ezo ntlekele zincinci zikhokelela ekubeni sityekele kwiziyobisi ezithomalalisa, eziya kusikhokelela kumbi kakhulu kunale nto sihamba kuyo, yintoni ke isisombululo koko kuphoxeka kuncinci kwaye sizoyisa njani iimvakalelo zethu xa sithanda ongeyena wethu kwaye ongasoze abe .

Ngaphezu kwako konke, kufuneka wazi njengoko wawuthanda ngeli xesha, uya kuphinda uthande, ukuphoxeka kokuqala kothando ayisosiphelo sehlabathi, sondela kwabo bakuthandayo, kwaye ujonge into onayo ezandleni zakho namhlanje kwaye qinisekisa ukuba nabani na ongalazi ixabiso lakho namhlanje uya kulazi ngenye imini, kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba umlinde kwaye hayi Kufuneka uchithe iminyaka yobomi bakho unethemba lothando oluya kukwenza ube ngumntu othotyiweyo, ongenasidima. .

Qinisekisa ukuba kukho umntu okunqwenelelayo nokuthandayo ndaweni ithile, thembela kuThixo kuyo yonke imicimbi yakho, yaye ulonwabo nolwaneliseko luya kuba sisabelo sakho ngomso olungekude.

Namhlanje ku-Ana Salwa, siza kuthetha ngezinye izinto ezinokukunceda ukuba woyise nayiphi na ingxaki yeemvakalelo ojongene nayo, kodwa, akukho nto iya kukwenza ulibale ngesihloko ukuba awuzincedi, kwaye wenze isigqibo sokuba uya kuqhubeka nobomi bakho. ngokuzithemba nangempumelelo.

1- Yiba buhlungu njengoko ufuna, kodwa, ungahlali ulibanjwa le ntlungu: akukho nto ithintela umthandi ukuba azive buhlungu kwaye azisole, kuba omnye akaziva uthando lwakhe, uthando kunye nokunyaniseka kuye, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha. Lo mcimbi unokuba sisizathu sokukhupha okungaphakathi kuye kwiintlungu, kodwa ngaphandle kokuba uyazi ukuba kufuneka ayeke nini ukuhlala nale meko ukuze aqale elinye inqanaba lobomi kude nale meko, kwaye kufuneka azi ukuba kukho into entsha. eqala emva kwako konke oku kuzisola akufumanayo, kwaye kufuneka aqonde ukuba kukho isiqalo sesiphelo ngasinye.

2- Mphephe kangangoko unako: Iqhalo lithi (ekude kwamehlo, ekude nentliziyo), kanti lo mhlathi sisicelo salo mcimbi. NjengoFacebook, ukuze azi ukuba akanakunxibelelana naye. ubuncinci ngokulula xa ubuthathaka ngokwasengqondweni.

I-3- Qinisekisa ukuba imeko yakho iya kuba ngcono ngaphandle kwalo mntu: nabani na ofuna ukuhlala kude nentanda yakhe kufuneka aqiniseke ngokupheleleyo ukuba ungcono, kwaye uya kuba kwimeko ezinzileyo. Kunokuba uqhubeke naye, kwaye kufuneka aqonde ukuba lo mntu ubuthathaka bakhe, kwaye ngoko ke kufuneka alahle le ngongoma, ade abe ngcono, anamandla, kwaye azinzile.

4- Musa ukugxeka lowo umthandayo, kwaye ungazibeki ityala: akuvumelekanga ukugxeka omnye umntu ngenxa yokuba akazange atshintshe iimvakalelo zothando kuye, njengokuba umcimbi wothando nothando lungenakuzikhethela, ngoko ke. yeyelinye iqela, kwaye ezi zizinto ezininzi ezingeyokuzithandela, kwaye ziphantsi kolawulo lomntu.

5- Lahla yonke into ekukhumbuzayo ngaye, kwaye uqale phantsi: kufuneka ulahle izinto ezikhumbuzayo, ezikukhumbuzayo, umzekelo, ukuba kukho ifoto yakho edibeneyo kunye nabahlobo, okanye ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwenye yemihla yakhe yokuzalwa kwaye wamnika isipho, ezi zinto ziya kwaye zihlala zibuyisela Iimvakalelo kwelinye icala, kwaye ngaphandle kokulawula.

  6-Yenze icace kwabo basondeleyo kuwe malunga nonxunguphalo lwakho kunye nobunyani beemvakalelo zakho.Ukwabelana nabanye kunciphisa usizi ezintliziyweni zethu: kuyanceda ukwabelana nomntu omthembileyo kwaye omhloniphileyo ngezi mvakalelo, njengoko enokuthi azuze kwabanye. iingcebiso zokulususa olu thando, kwaye unokuncedisa kulo. Kwaye le nto inceda ukukhupha intlungu.

I-7-Zixakekise ngokwakho kunye nekamva lakho: Kunokuba luncedo kakhulu kumntu othandana naye ukuba azixakekise ngezinto ezimnceda ukuba ahlukane nokucinga ngalo mntu. Ukuba uzixakekisa ngomsebenzi, okanye ezinye izinto zokuzonwabisa, eziya kumthatha ukusuka kuloo mmandla ukuya kwenye, kwaye lo mbandela uhlala unceda abantu abaxhomekeke kuthando lomntu okanye into.

8- Ungabi buthathaka phambi kweemvakalelo zakho kwaye ube likhoboka elibuthathaka: le meko ichaphazela abantu abathile abanokuthi bacinge ukuba bagqithise kwinqanaba laloo mntu, kwaye banokuthi bahlaselwe ngokukhawuleza, ngoko ke kufuneka balumke njengomntwana. Ukuba kunye naye ndaweni-nye.

9-Khangela uthando kwenye indawo kunye nomnye umntu: akukho nto ilibala uthando olungaphumeleli, njengebali elitsha lothando, kodwa kufuneka liphumelele, kwaye elinye iqela libuyisela iimvakalelo zothando.