Uma uthanda umuntu ongakuthandi, liyini ikhambi futhi ukunqoba kanjani ukuphoxeka kwakho okungokomzwelo?

Impilo akuyona eyethu, kwesinye isikhathi inzima kithina, ngakho siyakhungatheka futhi sidabuke, futhi kwesinye isikhathi lezo zinhlekelele ezincane zisiholela ekugqilazweni yizidakamizwa ezilalisa umzimba, okuzosiholela kokubi kakhulu kunalokhu esibhekene nakho, pho yini Isixazululo salokho kudumazeka okuncane futhi siyinqoba kanjani imizwa yethu lapho sithanda ongeyena owethu futhi ongeke abe .

Ngaphezu kwakho konke, kumele wazi njengoba wawuthanda kulesi sikhathi, uzophinde uthande, ukuphoxeka kokuqala kothando akukona ukuphela komhlaba, sondela kwabakuthandayo, futhi ubheke lokho onakho ezandleni zakho namuhla futhi qinisekisa ukuthi ongalazi inani lakho namuhla uyolazi ngelinye ilanga, kodwa akumele umlinde hhayi Kumele uchithe iminyaka yokuphila kwakho unethemba lothando oluzokwenza ube umuntu othotshisiwe, ongenaso isithunzi. .

Qiniseka ukuthi kukhona okufiselayo futhi okuthandayo ndawana thize, themba uNkulunkulu kuzo zonke izindaba zakho, futhi injabulo nokwaneliseka kuyoba isabelo sakho kusasa eliseduze.

Namuhla ku-Ana Salwa, sizokhuluma ngezinto ezingakusiza ukuba unqobe noma iyiphi inkinga yemizwa obhekene nayo, kodwa, akukho okuzokwenza ukhohlwe isihloko uma ungazisizi, futhi uthathe isinqumo sokuthi uzoqhubeka nempilo yakho. ngokuzethemba nangempumelelo.

1- Dala kakhulu ngokuthanda kwakho, kodwa, ungahlali uyisiboshwa salokhu kudabuka: akukho lutho oluvimbela othandekayo ukuba azizwe edabukile futhi azisole, ngoba omunye akazizwa uthando lwakhe, uthando nokwethembeka kuye, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi. lolu daba kungaba yisizathu sokukhipha okungaphakathi kuye ebuhlungwini, kodwa Ngaphandle kokuthi uyazi ukuthi kufanele ayeke nini ukuhlala nalesi simo ukuze aqale esinye isigaba sempilo kude nalesi simo, futhi kufanele azi ukuthi sekukhona okusha. eqala emva kwakho konke lokhu kuzisola abhekene nakho, futhi kumele abone ukuthi kunesiqalo saso sonke isiphetho.

2-Mgweme lo muntu ngangokunokwenzeka: isaga sithi (kude neso, kude nenhliziyo), futhi lesi sigatshana sisebenza kuleli cala. NjengoFacebook, ukuze azi ukuthi akakwazi ukuxhumana naye, okungenani kalula uma kwenzeka eba buthakathaka ngokwengqondo.

3- Qinisekisa ukuthi isimo sakho sizoba ngcono ngaphandle kwalo muntu: noma ubani owayefuna ukuhlala kude nesithandwa sakhe kufanele aqiniseke ngokugcwele ukuthi ungcono, futhi uzobe esesimweni esizinzile. Kunokuba aqhubeke naye, futhi kufanele aqaphele ukuthi lo muntu uyisici sakhe esibuthakathaka, ngakho-ke kufanele asuse leli phuzu, kuze kube yilapho eba ngcono, enamandla, futhi ezinzile.

4- Ungamsoli omthandayo, futhi ungazisoli: akuvumelekile ukusola omunye umuntu ngoba akazange ashintshe imizwa yothando kuye, njengoba nje nendaba yothando nothando ingenasisekelo kuwe, kanjalo. ingeyelinye iqembu, futhi lezi izinto ngokuvamile ezingezona ngokuzithandela, futhi Zingaphansi kokulawulwa umuntu.

5- Lahla konke okukukhumbuza ngaye, bese uqala kabusha: kufanele ulahle izinto eziyisikhumbuzo, ezikukhumbuza ngaye, isibonelo, ukuthi kukhona isithombe sakho esihlangene nabangani, noma uma ebambe iqhaza wezinsuku zakhe zokuzalwa futhi wamupha isipho, lezi zinto zizobuya futhi njalo Imizwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, futhi ngaphandle kokulawula.

  6- Kwenze kucace kulabo osondelene nabo ngokudabuka kwakho nangeqiniso lemizwa yakho Ukuhlanganyela nabanye kwehlisa usizi ezinhliziyweni zethu: kuyasiza ukwabelana nomuntu omethembayo nokuhloniphayo ngale mizwa, njengoba engase ahlomule kwabanye. iseluleko sokuqeda lolu thando, futhi angase asize kulo. Futhi le nto isiza ukukhipha ubuhlungu.

7- Zigcine umatasatasa nawe kanye nekusasa lakho: Kungase kube usizo kakhulu ukuthi isithandwa sizixake ngezinto ezimsiza asuse ukucabanga ngalo muntu. Uma ezigcina ematasa ngomsebenzi, noma ezinye izinto zokuzilibazisa, okuzomsusa kuleyo mikhathi amyise kwentsha, futhi le ndaba ngokuvamile izuzisa abantu abayimilutha yothando lothile noma into ethile.

8- Ungabi buthakathaka phambi kwemizwa yakho futhi ube yisigqila esibuthakathaka: lesi simo sithinta abanye abantu abangase bacabange ukuthi usedlulile esigabeni salowo muntu, futhi angase abhekane nokuhlehliswa kungazelelwe, ngakho-ke kufanele baqaphele njenge umngane wabo.Ukuba laye endaweni eyodwa.

9- Funa uthando kwenye indawo kanye nomunye umuntu: akukho okukhohlwa uthando oluhlulekile, njengendaba entsha yothando, kodwa kufanele ibe yimpumelelo, futhi omunye umuntu ubuyisela imizwa yothando.